by X-Man

As a man, I've often seen women make terrible mistakes when it comes to relationships. It might be because they didn't have their fathers around to tell them any better, or it might be the fact that they just don't care. No matter what the cause, a lot of women make terrible mistakes when meeting men. Maybe this will help you out.

Here are the biggest mistakes women make when meeting new men:

1) Not smiling: People may not want to hear this, but a woman's smile is one of her greatest assets. It lets men know that she's a loving nurturer, and someone he can share his feelings with. A woman with a constant scowl reminds him of his evil second grade teacher. Be the warm, loving figure that he desires and this is a great first step to making him fall in love. Greet him with a frown and most men are going to see you as clearly unapproachable. You don't want to be in this category unless your goal is to remain alone.

2) Giving it up too fast: Men chase sex, that's true. But men don't often fall in love over sex. Sex is driven by a physical need for men so that's why they are going to ask for it early and often. But if you set the bar too low, he'll see you as a cheap way to release his physical tension. Instead, let him know you have standards, which will lead him to view you as a valuable commodity in his life, and not something he can find on any street corner.

3) Having a chip on your shoulder: Nobody likes a person with an attitude. Some people think that being a strong woman means yelling, being loud or disrespecting men at every turn, but this ain't cute. Not at all. Would you like it if your man behaved in the same way? What if his insecurities caused him to get offended every time you open your mouth? Well, a good approach to all of this is to treat others the way you'd like to be treated. This can go a long, long way.

4) Being too possessive: Men don't like being controlled anymore than women do. While you might think that you're securing your relationship by controlling another person's behavior, the reality is that you could be pushing that person away. Observe the man's behavior, but don't try to change it. Respond to the things you see, but don't try to manage another human being. A man who feels that he has freely chosen to remain with you is going to be far more loyal than a man who feels like a slave.

5) Chasing bad boys instead of the good: All of the scientists show that bad boys are appealing to women. While it's fine to choose the bad boys, you should remember that being a bad boy means you're bad in a lot of ways. So, being a bad boy means you're more likely to be an abuser, a cheater or a person who doesn't want to commit. Also, that bad boy cheater you're chasing after is also being pursued by a lot of women at the same time. So, while you might think you want the bad boy in your life, it might be better for you to choose someone who is focused on loving you full time.

6) Not bringing anything to the table: Most of us can explain what we are looking for in a mate, but few people spend time thinking about what they can give to somebody else. A good man who is doing well financially is usually smart enough to avoid women who are a financial mess. He doesn't want to solve all of your problems, pay off your debt and fix your life only so your bad habits can create yet another mess for him to clean up afterward. Get your house in order. Keep yourself in shape. Learn how to bring something of value to the table that can make his life better. This will make a good man see you as a good investment in his life and not just another pretty face.

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